I struggle to keep going
Each night, when I set my clothes anew for the morning
I pick my socks last.
Ghosts; gnomes; fairytales; superheroes; skulls
When I put them on, before I step onto the cold floor I feel a little stronger
Thin cotton and nylon are my armor. They keep me true within myself
My colours. They give me a voice to let the ghost inside me speak. It is still me. Small and fragile (ironic as I am bigger now than I was)
It frightens me, this notion of selves. I asked Simon if he wanted me to bring anything back from Sydney over the weekend
His reply; no CDs. He is different in this. He wants to bring his collection online he says, economise on space so to speak. Travel light
I came into a discussion on this entirely separately with a new friend a few days later. He runs a sock stall- he sells my battle cloth- and spoke of bringing books and words together online- ipods; e-books, the new marks of our world, to be able to move at whim and still have everything. It reminded me of one of the great characters of my childhood. We called him No Shoes Michael (for self-explanatory reasons). He lived in a truck, my mother told me. He wore the same clothes. Traveled light so to speak. When I walked into the city, passing many people sleeping rough on the street I thought of these parallel worlds. A little known author I came across, Everett Ruess set off alone. He traveled light, before there were mobile phones, or digital devices to store all our worldly goods. He had a donkey. He disappeared in the desert. We never found him, but whether he lived or died his weightless worldly possessions were still less than ours.
Simon has said to me he does not want clutter, and it frightens me that he sees me as clutter. I am reestablishing my roots; working out what is me. Yes, I have more than two pairs of shoes, and I bought a CD of my own in Sydney. I am trying to work through myself though. Sorting out what to keep and what to discard. What fits, so to speak. I am not convinced to have things is bad. I broke the embargo I set on buying more socks (it was always going to happen) but far more of what I gathered in Sydney concerned my own thoughts.
I am exhausted, lost, frightened
But I am still going.
Another thing I came across in Sydney- non material- was a sense of diversity. I spent time with my family. Ate lunch with them; wandered shops; went together with them to watch Matilda. It kind of shocked me with Matilda, though I enjoyed the production, the change that had been effected on Matilda’s family. Like my family in so many ways Matilda’s family were not her people. They were not perfect. Mr Wormwood traded in illegal cars and Mrs Wormwood dyed her hair platinum blond. They did not read books, nor appreciate that she did, but mostly they were not bad people. When I spoke to my friend on the sock stall, as my family had drifted through we spoke of this difference in families and people. It is more common than we like to believe and the snapshots of my family as they critiqued my juice at lunch, and the places I shop. We are just different.
I guess the big thing that came to me when I think of these different people, and desire so much to be my own person. Unfettered, I don’t know if that necessarily means without belongings. I think whether I carry my life in a backpack; on my computer or in the clutter that comes and goes with us all, I want to be free in my own thoughts.
Today I have been thinking and speaking more about support for people with eating disorders, and the concept of being able to free myself. I like to think that is possible, however many socks, CDs, books or things I have or don’t have. I think this freedom inside is something we gather as we go along. I hope so. I hope Simon will stay. I miss him. I want him to know that inside, I am still me