Today I feel broken
I have spent the last two days trying to piece together a butter dish
I found it shattered on my kitchen floor when I slunk in from work. Truffles didn’t even have the grace to look guilty- cats never do
It’s been a challenge- the naked fear I’ve felt getting butter on my fingers as I clean it and the many, many broken pieces and cracks. I bought it on a perfect day out with a friend. Now I am still trying to piece it back together, and my days feel broken and soiled. As I put the pieces back together, lots of memories and feelings come up
I guess it’s symbolic- I have chosen the most challenging path around many things; and I don’t like to give up; I am made up of small fragments- I have been broken into them many times before.
Right now I am piecing things back together, but at the same time trying to decide what is right to give up. If I give up my goal of searching for perfection, control- rightness in myself; numbers- will I ever be ableĀ to be all right?
I am very fearful right now as I clean my wounds that things won’t be right. In a few months Simon will be finished his Honours thesis. He says this is where he needs to focus and I can accept that. It is right, but what if when he finishes we still can’t be right? I want to believe that our pieces will fit neatly- I can see many still do, but all I can do is hope they will complete themselves
As I hope
Starting out in my studies
Exhausted, overworked, trying to aspire. Perhaps when I’ve had a proper night’s rest. Said goodnight too it all and woken anew
Perhaps I can paint the cracks with gold then. It’s what I want for my butter dish- to make something of things that were never made to be this way. But still, they were broken and remade
Perhaps I should accept my own perfections, rather than fear them. It is not their fault (nor mine) that people can be so unkind as to pick them out and brandish them like wounds. Perhaps I need not be so sensitive, but if I lose all of that too
Perhaps I will not be the same person. I guess I don’t have a choice about the cracks. But I do have a choice about how I decorate them
Bluetack or selotape?
Superglue or gold leaf?
Bold grout?
Should I just throw the whole sorry mess away and buy anew?
I’ve tried that before. It never seems as smooth
And often the things I buy later are less sturdy. I’ve always been about keeping. As I sit with my glue, I remember how my father used to be the mender.
Sometimes things would sit for a long time
But on a rainy day, often with my sister or I to be the “holder-together” we would try to mend. Perhaps that will always be me
I’ve been told I’m a “fixer”
But sometimes to be “broken” is not so dysfunctional as we think.
I watched an episode of Dr Who with some friends tonight. It was a Peter Capaldi episode (he’s no David Tennant, but he’s ok). It was about the things we fear- monsters- and had a rhyme I’d never heard, but immediately it felt right:
“What’s that in the mirror? In the corner of your eye? What’s that footstep following? But never passing by? Perhaps they’re all just waiting, Perhaps when we’re all dead. Out they’ll come a slithering, From underneath your bed”
In the end they weren’t real, the monsters. It was all fear. They said it makes
“Faster, cleverer [clearly the writer of this episode did not fear anything to get their grammar right], stronger”
But I only want to be myself
Broken, or unbroken. I’m just terrified of what I might lose